College Relationship, need some advice?

I have always been a single guy and enjoyed that lifestyle and I am now almost 19 years old, during the summer of my senior year of high school I was all pumped up for the college lifestyle and being free.



Than that summer I met a girl and for the first time in my life I fell in love and she fell in love with me... originally we were just going to date and stay together while living a college lifestyle. Within a month though it turned into mutual love. We got into an official relationship and we became each others first.



For the first semester of my freshman year we were completely fine all we wanted was each other. Now though all her friends start calling her up to have a girls night out.



I told her I couldn't stand the thought of her grinding on another guy because I find it sexual because as a guy I know I go to parties to hook up with girls, even if I trust her I know she wont cheat shes still grinding on guys and I cant mentally handle it...



We had an arguement about it and in the end she told me a future with me was worth giving up going out and dancing, but Im not sure how long till it comes up again.



My question is should I let her go out and swallow my feelings even if its breaking my heart to let her do it? Should I attempt to take her out and see if me taking her out is enough? What do I do... she is happy again but were on winter break and I know when we get back this will come back up? This is a girl I could see me spending my life with.College Relationship, need some advice?
You kids and your ';grinding.'; There are other forms of dancing and ways to socialize at parties, you know, even in college. And for that matter, there are countless opportunities for her to socialize with other guys in an everyday context if she was really determined. You can't keep her from leaving her house, so you need to either get a handle on your insecurity and trust her or admit that you're not ready to be in a relationship right now.College Relationship, need some advice?
I understand that this is your first love but you can't tell girls (even if they're your girlfriend) what to do. You're not her father.



Taking her out won't be enough because she wants to spend time with her friends as well. Your relationship with her and her friends are two entirely different things. Her life does not revolve around one or the other.



You mentioned that you trusted her. If you trust her, you will let her go with her friends on a girls night out. If you have any doubts about her faithfulness, then talk it out with her calmly. Avoid arguing.



Good luck